When we hit our 40s and our hormones start to change, our bodies also change, our skin loses condition and becomes dryer, our body shape changes, we gain a little weight and we lose some muscle tone, plus that feeling of extreme tiredness that hits us at the end of the day.
It’s not surprising you don’t feel very amorous and up for a romp around the bedroom.
Not only do we have to cope with the above we can experience thinning of the vaginal skin area and dryness it can sometimes be downright painful. Great sounds like fun times ahead. NOT!!! Passion is going to be the last thing on your mind am sure.
But fear not ladies (and gents) all is not lost there are things you can do to help.
Without any doubt, exercise is a fantastic mood booster and makes you feel more confident about your body and although we can’t change our bodies for the one we had at 30 we can defiantly make the best of the one we have got.
Exercise improves muscle mass which starts to drop as we age and so it tones the body,raises serotonin and dopamine the feel good hormones , a little secret for you orgasm has the same effect too and can help if you are having trouble sleeping.
Eating the right food can help as well; if you cut out all the refined processed foods you will properly feel better about yourself anyway and will find you have more energy. Vitamin E often called the fertility vitamin but more evidence is needed about that. It has been known to help with vaginal dryness so that’s worth a try and eat more nuts (no pun intended) especially almonds and seeds like sunflower. Vegetables like Swiss chard, spinach, kale, pine nuts and avocado and papaya but to name a few.
To help with vaginal dryness make some fun out of it, there are lots of lubricants on the market and the yesyesyes.org company have a wide range of organic lubricants and moisturisers that can help.
There is no doubt the stress of being in the 3rd age is sometimes overwhelming if we have grown up kids at home (bit of a passion killer) and we are having to care for elderly parents as well as working and running the home, it’s hardly surprising that you don’t want to rip your partner/ husbands clothes off is it?
Make time for each other have date nights away from home it doesn’t have to be expensive, but could put a little spark in the right direction.
Lastly talk to your partner or husband tell them how you feel, you will not solve anything if you don’t share the problem.
Now go and have fun.